Finding My Way : Ex's Friends
It tickles me to think back of the friends that we make in our everyday life through mutual friends, through the boyfriend or girlfriend at that time or even, through work place alone. Making friends are one thing but how sincere the friendship is depends on oneself. When I was dating my ex-boyfriend, I've met plenty of his friends, some of which he'd call real 'friends'. Things were great when he had to drag me along to the boring work-place 'friends' meet. They would act all nice and sweet and wanna get to know you more. In other words, pretentious to be interested. This may sound cynical and mean but it's reality. Maybe they may not have those sort of intentions, but who am I to judge anyway?
Initially, I thought that they were really sincerely nice to me. All the while I had the thought of them being great friends from what I've heard from my ex. As time passes, things changed. The relationship with my ex ended but we still remained friends. I thought that his friends would not have anything against me as, this relatipnship was between me and my ex alone. I was not expecting his 'friends' to get involved in it. Little did I know that his friends were unsatisfied with the fact that I made the decision to end the relationship and it had to hurt my ex. In a way, they are great friends because they care for him by being protective but where were they when the relationship was going well? So, they were only nice to me only when I was 'the girlfriend' and therefore should not be nice to me when i was merely 'the ex who ditched their friend'?
How was this ever fair to me? I was never mean to them. I treated them the same as I did before and was not expecting them to act this way. I was expecting them to be more matured about relationship matters. Whoever gave them the right to have a say in MY relatiohsip anyway? It sort of leaves me in the position where I do not have the right to make the decision in my relationship alone. What is this crap man?
What really pissed me of was when I was out with my ex *Alex, we were having a great time catching up and talking about work when we had to drop by his office to return something to his work-mate 'friend', *Aileen. When me and *Alex were boyfriends and girlfriends, she would sing praises as to how *Alex loves me and how I was good as his girlfriend to take care of him. She was very nice to me that I was quite intimidated by her. Little did I know that she would act the way she did when me and *Alex were no longer in a relationship. She came to the car and *Alex opened the window at the passenger seat (where I was sitting) and practically ignored me. "Hi Alex, thanks for dropping this by. See you!" I was stunned. I was just about to raise my hand to say, "Hi Aileen, how have you been?" but I guess it was a wee bit too late and her actions were not only rude, they were immature and unethical. Just because I was no longer *Alex's girlfriend, does this mean she had the right to ignore me? And the ironic part of it was, just before we went to pass her the thing, me and *Alex were talking about how his friends at work are almost his 'real' friends. Is this what a 'real' friend would do? Sure shows a lot of her true colours and how true she would be as a friend.
I guess we have to be very careful to whom we call a 'friend'. At the end of the day, all I can say about *Aileen is that she is nothing more than just a pretentious, selfish man-looking, plastic biatch who thinks that she's everything just cause of the fact that she graduated in some science degree and is in an international company.
Initially, I thought that they were really sincerely nice to me. All the while I had the thought of them being great friends from what I've heard from my ex. As time passes, things changed. The relationship with my ex ended but we still remained friends. I thought that his friends would not have anything against me as, this relatipnship was between me and my ex alone. I was not expecting his 'friends' to get involved in it. Little did I know that his friends were unsatisfied with the fact that I made the decision to end the relationship and it had to hurt my ex. In a way, they are great friends because they care for him by being protective but where were they when the relationship was going well? So, they were only nice to me only when I was 'the girlfriend' and therefore should not be nice to me when i was merely 'the ex who ditched their friend'?
How was this ever fair to me? I was never mean to them. I treated them the same as I did before and was not expecting them to act this way. I was expecting them to be more matured about relationship matters. Whoever gave them the right to have a say in MY relatiohsip anyway? It sort of leaves me in the position where I do not have the right to make the decision in my relationship alone. What is this crap man?
What really pissed me of was when I was out with my ex *Alex, we were having a great time catching up and talking about work when we had to drop by his office to return something to his work-mate 'friend', *Aileen. When me and *Alex were boyfriends and girlfriends, she would sing praises as to how *Alex loves me and how I was good as his girlfriend to take care of him. She was very nice to me that I was quite intimidated by her. Little did I know that she would act the way she did when me and *Alex were no longer in a relationship. She came to the car and *Alex opened the window at the passenger seat (where I was sitting) and practically ignored me. "Hi Alex, thanks for dropping this by. See you!" I was stunned. I was just about to raise my hand to say, "Hi Aileen, how have you been?" but I guess it was a wee bit too late and her actions were not only rude, they were immature and unethical. Just because I was no longer *Alex's girlfriend, does this mean she had the right to ignore me? And the ironic part of it was, just before we went to pass her the thing, me and *Alex were talking about how his friends at work are almost his 'real' friends. Is this what a 'real' friend would do? Sure shows a lot of her true colours and how true she would be as a friend.
I guess we have to be very careful to whom we call a 'friend'. At the end of the day, all I can say about *Aileen is that she is nothing more than just a pretentious, selfish man-looking, plastic biatch who thinks that she's everything just cause of the fact that she graduated in some science degree and is in an international company.
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