Finding My Way : Parting Ways
Are we still friends?
When a couple breaks up, most of them often end up being total strangers to each other. Why do such things happen? Is it really necessary for people to disregard what they shared with their partner for a certain amount of time to little pieces of nothings after a huge row? For my case, I often make the first move in wanting to be friends eventhough we no longer can share a relationship together. Most of the guys are pretty ok with it but some of them cannot even have that thought in their mind.
Can we really not be friends anymore after sharing what was once declared as the most beautiful experiences in life? Do we really deserve to be hurt that much that we should disregard the fact of knowing each other even? Should we punish ourselves this way by forcing ourselves to NOT acknowledge the fact that we were once a loving couple which cannot be together anymore?
Many would ask why things end up this way. I would dare to come up and explain to them that it is merely caused by many factors. One of which would be the third parties. His friends. His friends who would care for him would not be nice and pleasant to me because I was the one who ended the relationship. Do they, as his friends have the right to do so? By being nasty to me just because he is the one hurthing? Yes, you can be a good and the best of friends by showing your support but by being all nasty to the person who decided to end the relationship, is that not childish? But yet, I was the one being spat 'Childish and Immature' for stating out what really happened. Do I really deserved it? First of all, why are the friends getting themselves involved in this relationship in the first place anyway? Were they around to celebrate our love when we were together? Why are they only being seen to only when we broke up? Do his friends have the right to get all pissed off at me for simply ending the relationship?
It hurts to know that the person whom you once loved before has changed his ways of thinking. Being all cynical but at the same time not knowing the fact that I of all people, am trying to be realistic. Do I have to have a heart of stone to be realistic? Should I not be hurt and cry when I end the relationship? Or should I say, do I not have the right to be hurt when I am the one ending the relationship? It seems like I am not allowed to be hurt. It seems like if I am the one ending the relationship, I should not be hurt, I should not cry and I should not wallow about it. Instead, I should jump about with joy and celebrate the occasion of being single again.
What is the world coming to that even two people who were lovers cannot see eye to eye even after a decision of ending the relationship? A couple who once were very much in love with each other but not anymore. For me, I just hope that we can be friends again, that is, if he would allow it. But his restrictions as to being friends with me would only be accessible only if I was hurting as much as he was. Is this how friendship really works nowadays?
When a couple breaks up, most of them often end up being total strangers to each other. Why do such things happen? Is it really necessary for people to disregard what they shared with their partner for a certain amount of time to little pieces of nothings after a huge row? For my case, I often make the first move in wanting to be friends eventhough we no longer can share a relationship together. Most of the guys are pretty ok with it but some of them cannot even have that thought in their mind.
Can we really not be friends anymore after sharing what was once declared as the most beautiful experiences in life? Do we really deserve to be hurt that much that we should disregard the fact of knowing each other even? Should we punish ourselves this way by forcing ourselves to NOT acknowledge the fact that we were once a loving couple which cannot be together anymore?
Many would ask why things end up this way. I would dare to come up and explain to them that it is merely caused by many factors. One of which would be the third parties. His friends. His friends who would care for him would not be nice and pleasant to me because I was the one who ended the relationship. Do they, as his friends have the right to do so? By being nasty to me just because he is the one hurthing? Yes, you can be a good and the best of friends by showing your support but by being all nasty to the person who decided to end the relationship, is that not childish? But yet, I was the one being spat 'Childish and Immature' for stating out what really happened. Do I really deserved it? First of all, why are the friends getting themselves involved in this relationship in the first place anyway? Were they around to celebrate our love when we were together? Why are they only being seen to only when we broke up? Do his friends have the right to get all pissed off at me for simply ending the relationship?
It hurts to know that the person whom you once loved before has changed his ways of thinking. Being all cynical but at the same time not knowing the fact that I of all people, am trying to be realistic. Do I have to have a heart of stone to be realistic? Should I not be hurt and cry when I end the relationship? Or should I say, do I not have the right to be hurt when I am the one ending the relationship? It seems like I am not allowed to be hurt. It seems like if I am the one ending the relationship, I should not be hurt, I should not cry and I should not wallow about it. Instead, I should jump about with joy and celebrate the occasion of being single again.
What is the world coming to that even two people who were lovers cannot see eye to eye even after a decision of ending the relationship? A couple who once were very much in love with each other but not anymore. For me, I just hope that we can be friends again, that is, if he would allow it. But his restrictions as to being friends with me would only be accessible only if I was hurting as much as he was. Is this how friendship really works nowadays?
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